Self-confidence is a psychological quality related to (but distinct from) self-esteem. Having high levels of self-confidence can have huge benefits for all areas of an individual’s life, including relationships, career and social life. Self-confidence isn't there just to make you feel good. We need self-confidence to drive our aspirations to make them real; it's as much a vehicle as a destination in itself. What's more, when you are self-confident others feel it and can't help but respond. So how can you build your self-confidence starting now?
Self-confidence can be seen in a number of ways, such as in an individual’s body language, the way they speak, how they react to certain situations and their behavior. The good news is that self-confidence is a skill that can be developed. The first step is to acknowledge the current level of self-confidence and the cause of low self-confidence, and then find ways to build upon this until confidence becomes a deeply ingrained automatic quality.
Do you have low self-confidence?
According to motivational speaker, Dr. Shad Helmstetter, the typical person hears the word "NO" from authority figures an average of 118,000 times by the time they reach the age of 18.
Einstein theorized that for every negative message we receive, it takes eleven or more positive messages to counterbalance the negative effects within our subconscious mind.
The result? All these negative messages reinforce personal feelings of insecurity and self doubt.
If an individual has low self-confidence they will often feel:
shy and uneasy
uncomfortable in certain situations
uncertain of themselves
uncertain of their needs
sense of worthlessness
negative thoughts about themselves
People who are under-confident misuse self-hypnosis without even knowing they're doing it. So many people waste time imagining how awful they'll feel 'when' things go wrong. They worry about how they'll cope with humiliation, defeat, failure, or being thought of as weird or 'a loser'. No wonder they fear to even try. This is a destructive, uncontrolled form of self-hypnosis. Misusing the imagination to rehearse feeling bad about yourself is a fast-track route to self-doubt. Get into the habit of doing the opposite.
Help for low self-confidence
How confidence is developed throughout an individual’s early life greatly influences the current level of confidence an individual has. However, this level can often be changed as everyone has the ability to enhance their self-confidence.
You may not think of yourself as a self-confident person because you haven't been that way in the past. But I'd like you to dwell on the idea that self-confidence is more of a reclaiming of how you would have been had you not learnt self-doubt, diffidence, and fear of failure.
Self-confidence is your natural state, before you learned to imagine what others 'might think of you' or how something bad happening might be the 'end of the world'.
Hypnotherapy has high success rates for helping those suffering from low self-confidence. Hypnotherapy seeks to determine the root cause of the low self-confidence and then find ways to resolve it. By reaching the subconscious mind and modify deeply rooted belief systems, therapeutic hypnosis helps you:
recognize the triggers that are causing you to doubt yourself
interrupt the recurring patterns that have held you back
replace negative thought patterns with positive ones
believe in your own unique talents, skills, and abilities
activate subconscious resources that are already in place but not being utilized effectively
Let’s face it: there will always be challenges in life. There will always be uncertainty when you pursue your goals. It is only through development of solid self-confidence that you can face the inevitable uncertainties. Building that level of confidence requires a consistent program of positive mental conditioning. Add hypnotherapy to the mix, and you have positive mental conditioning on steroids.